Whatever temptation you are going through whether that be; Cutting, Porn, Alcohol, Drugs, Sex or something else. You are a child of God and you can break the chains.

I am currently dealing with my own temptations, and this is a risk putting this out there because I am not free at the moment, but I am getting there. I thought I would share what is currently working for me, this is to help others and maybe my future self if I need to return to this topic.

Most important for me, is reading God’s word. This is the main way he speaks to us. If we aren’t reading his word and your thinking “Well where are you God?” Then try finding him through his word. Reading his word, is a repetitive thing and you will get verses you can use to remind yourself when tempted how much God loves you or verses to change your mindset.

Secondly is prayer. Prayer is powerful, it can change lives, it can change mindsets and it can heal. If you are feeling tempted pray or read your bible, use the energy you have for thinking of ways to commit to the temptation and put them to better use, delving into God’s word.

My final bit of advice and one that has help me so much is get an accountability partner or someone you can talk too. Now at times with mine I feel like I am burdening them, sorry guys! But it’s so so important. They can motivate you in times of trouble, distract you with phone calls, pray for you and keep you focused on God. I tried many times to do it almost on my own, without anyone. Trust me I am doing much better with someone who stays accountable, than without. Like I said earlier I am not free yet, but baby steps. I’ve tried to set achievable targets, so rather than saying I am free from temptation now and giving in the next day, I’ve split my week down the middle. So I am saying to myself just try till Wednesday to not give in, then by Wednesday try till Sunday. God wants our best, not 70%, 90% or 99% he wants 100% so are you going to give him that?

Have a watch of this video. https://youtu.be/fsaKwDPBTeM (this is God to you, “Don’t quit, I know it hurts but give me your best!”

God bless. Godly Gent.



Life is like driving down a foggy road at night. You are heading forwards, but you cannot see the next turn. Even with all the help you can get (Fog lights) the next turn is still hard to see. Yet with all your difficulties you make it to the end, often from your own guesswork, and you arrive safely to your destination.

Life as a Christian, is like driving down the same road, yet this time there is no fog. You still cannot see the final destination, and you still make the same turns and twists along the way. Except this time you aren’t squinting and trying to guess, you can see the road clearly ahead. Sometimes you have to concentrate to see which way the road goes and sometimes you make may a wrong turn, but you make it to the same destination and your path is much clearer to see.

See the difference? Jesus is the light in the darkness, let him take the reigns and you will see the path becomes clear.

Can salt lose its saltiness ?

“You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot.” Matthew 5 v 13 NIV

What is Salt?

Salt used to have a different property to what it does currently. In around the 1600s, salt used to be used as a preservative. People didn’t own refrigerators to keep food fresh, so they would use salt to stop it from rotting. 

We are the salt of the earth as christians. Or that is what we want to be, and if we lose our saltiness we have no purpose. As christians we can’t expect life to be comfortable and easy. We will be put in horrible situations, where we feel out of place and uncomfortable. However are we not in that situation or environment as “Salt of the earth” to stop rotting, are we not there to spread some salt of the sitaution, and be a light in the darkness?

Obviously we know salts primary use in today’s society, it’s to season food, give bland food that extra bit of flavour. However have you ever been to a restaurant or even a McDonald’s and there is too much salt on your food, and it’s just ruined it? Too much salt loses its value, and you no longer require it, your food is ruined and you maybe need some sauce to get rid of the flavour or pepper. Mmmm food! If as christians we are in the majority, we lose our purpose to the non-believers. We overpower them, and they will not listen to us. Admittedly some will be interested and intrigued, but most would switch off. 

We have more impact if we are in the minority. We are more effective as “salt” as we offer a little bit of saltiness, rather than a lot. We may not be able to touch as many lives, but we will have an impact. We water the plant, and God will make it grow.

God will put is the situation we are most needed. However we can’t negotiate with God. He will listen to us; but we can’t say to God, we will do what you want us to do, but not this that and the other. We can’t want to be part of Gods amazing plan for our lives, and want to be in control. You are either all in or your not. You can’t be half and half. “Hear I am, send me”

Here’s the secret. If you want to be an obedient servant and spirit, you need to be ready to obey. If you aren’t ready, don’t be surprised not to hear from him. This however doesn’t mean he isn’t listening or wanting what’s best for you. Maybe he’s training you in your current job, or waiting for something. If you let him in, it’s going to be an amazing journey! Have a read of Jeremiah 29:11
Every Christian is called, but only if you are willing to go, even if you end up on a cross. 

Thank you Jesus! 

Remain Salty

God bless, Godly Gent.


Right now if someone asked you to name your celebrity crush, that would be dead easy right? If your a girl you’d probably say something like: Zac Efron, David Beckham or Channing Tatum. If your a guy it would be something along the lines of: Selena Gomez, Megan Fox, Mila Kunis or maybe Mollie King (had to get a blonde in there, can’t be hairist) 

But what if someone asked you for your ideal partner, you future spouse, could you name the qualities and features you wanted? Would you probably name Christian and funny or good looking and good family background. How seriously do we take into consideration religion, and do we look at the bigger picture ? 

After reading the book, “The Chase:Trusting God with your happily ever after” by Kelsey Kupecky. I already had my own ideas about what qualities I wanted, but it really made me think about how serious I have to be. 

Have you ever considered how big a part God plays in your relationships or even your life for that matter. He’s not someone you can just pick up and drop whenever you please, he is ALWAYS there! He has chosen out the most perfect spouse for you, but you need to trust him. In the book, it mentions prayerfully creating a list of qualities you desire from your future spouse. Now this isn’t about “Oh big arms, abs, big thighs and has to be tall, dark and handsome” Or for lads… well you get the picture. This is about qualities such as Christian, chasing God, Beautiful inside and out, someone who wants to stay pure. 

The list is so important. It sounds maybe a bit extreme. However, before you are about to date someone, you have made this list before God, and he wants what is perfect for you, so your list should be perfect. 

So look at the list and after loads of prayer with God, have a look and see if it matches up. After all “I know the plans, I have for you, plans to prosper and not to harm” Jeremiah 29:11 He wants what’s perfect for you, what you can imagine, he has something that is 100x better! 

If you are chasing God, and praying and talking to him, doing what is right and trying to get closer to him; things will start clicking into place for you. You need a guy who is also chasing God, and you should never accept anything less. DO NOT SETTLE, God has the perfect person. If you are constantly in prayer with God, and praying to meet this person when the time is right, then it will happen. You just have to trust.

Things on my list include:

Chasing God

Staying Pure for God


Beautiful inside and out 

Just an idea, I am currently single and waiting on the Lord. 

A word of advice for guys from what I have read.

  1. Chase God first, and things will happen
  2. Be a leader. Lead girls spiritual, pray with them, help them with verses. Be a leader, not a follower
  3. Pursue the girl. Don’t wait for her to make the first move, if they are giving you the signs or you are interested, if it’s right, it will happen. May God by my witness. 
  4. Be a gentleman, it’s all fun and games sometimes, but at the end of the day, manners matter. Be respectful
  5. Be patient and forgiving. It’s so easy to fall out in today’s society, but the little things don’t matter if you can win a girls heart. 

*Advice* Read the book “The Chase” or make a list, and pray about each thing on the list. You may add to it or take things off as you get older. What’s important to you for when you are married, after all that is the reason you date someone right? Because you want it to progress to marriage? Obviously don’t start the first conversation with that, you’ll scare them off!

Keep him at the centre.



That guilty feeling you get after giving in to the temptation. The sickening feeling in your chest, the wish to start over and take back your actions. The light goes on and the guilt and hurting starts, am I close? Probably because I am one of these people. Along with the 95% of other males that commit themselves to the screen and multi pound industry that is porn.

It’s everywhere. It’s a virus that’s spreading. Firstly it started with old magazines, videos on the top shelf, page 3 in the papers. Now it’s everywhere, from billboards with girls dressed in underwear or swimwear, to instagram, to now the internet where it is all so easy to access. No wonder we struggle right? We see enough imagery throughout our day that we are now almost immune to it, but little do we know what is going on in the background.

So a couple of weeks ago, I admitted to some people I don’t know very well about my struggles. I brought the darkness of my room into the light at a men’s pub study. The men there prayed for me, and prayed a blessing upon me. Additionally I got speaking to a guy there I’ve hardly spoken to before. He told me that he also struggles. He offered to be my accountability partner. Now this is something I have wanted for a while, because I know how effective they can be, so I was more than willing to accept the offer.

It started great, a week went by, hardly any temptations, I was like great, thanks God this is awesome, I am finally beating the temptation I have had for over 10 years. Then this week started. Started well, again no temptations, Tuesday came, the temptations started, I checked some things on Twitter, didn’t give in and Tuesday came and went. Friday came, now I went that bit further, I checked out some websites, again I was just doing my usual “Oh let’s see if they have uploaded any new videos” just about managed to not give in, but it was hard! Then today came, little did I know that each little thing I’d done, had slowly lowered my senses, again I went back to the websites, before I knew it, the deed was done, the guilt kicked in… 15 days of success GONE.

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”
‭‭1 John‬ ‭1:9‬ ‭NIV‬‬


Now I don’t know what your going through, you reading this, whether you struggled, are struggling, need advice, have a friend who suffers, or are just checking out my first blog! Yeah me!

But in my lowest point, or maybe my strongest; “That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭12:10‬ ‭NIV‬‬
I will try and offer some tips to avoid giving in to those temptations and breaking the chains rather than giving in to the demon inside you late at night when you are bored or can’t sleep, or just have the urge. These aren’t from a professional, but from one Christian brother to another. Most people don’t know actually 50% of girls suffer to. So it’s to you lot as well!

Tip 1: Reading the bible & Prayer

It sounds simple right, maybe it’s something we should be doing already?! If we love God and want to know more, we have that hunger, then it should be a massive part of your day. I get it though, you have a busy lifestyle.

God understands, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it though! Pick up your bible now, or open the app on your smartphone. Choose a random page, open it, read it, write notes on it and what you think it means. God can use his word to talk to you, give you signs, help a friend or family member, or even just to strengthen you. For example at times of temptation remember;

James 4:7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Have it ready at any opportunity, like a secret weapon in your artillery. See how often it helps.

Prayer is massively important. Throughout your day pray thankful prayers. Thanking God for all the wonderful things in your life; Family, Friends, your health, your job, your car, girlfriends/boyfriends (obviously not plural haha) just for everything good in your life, be joyful. Thank him for protecting you against temptation and more importantly the temptation that will undoubtedly come your way later. This prayer keeps you joyful, it also is a prayer showing you trust God.

How often do you pray to Jesus? I was speaking to an awesome friend of mine, who in my eyes is so spiritual. She questioned me, which she does often, and said how often do I pray to Jesus? There is power in Jesus name, try it!

“In the synagogue there was a man possessed by a demon, an impure spirit. He cried out at the top of his voice, “Go away! What do you want with us, Jesus of Nazareth? Have you come to destroy us? I know who you are—the Holy One of God!” “Be quiet!” Jesus said sternly. “Come out of him!” Then the demon threw the man down before them all and came out without injuring him. All the people were amazed and said to each other, “What words these are! With authority and power he gives orders to impure spirits and they come out!””
‭‭Luke‬ ‭4:33-36‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Tip 2 Accountability 

This is pretty important to have; someone you trust, someone you know who will pray for you daily, if your tempted will distract you whether it be a phone call or coming round for a chat or going out for a walk with you. Someone you don’t want to let down, you know will always reply to texts/messages and most importantly won’t judge you. My recommendation for this is get someone you know well enough to be open with, but someone you would be ashamed to let down. You could also look into websites where they can see what websites you have been on, and it flags up.

Can’t really say much more than that on this, it just helps to open up to someone after you’ve prayed and be honest about your emotions and how your feeling. It may also be an idea to find someone who struggles or has in the past so that you can help each other out, go through the journey together and may have experienced say week 4 temptations compared to day 1.

Tip 3 Distractions

This leads me nicely onto my third and final tip, I could go on and on about different tips, but these in my opinion are the best ones.

Keep distracted. It’s as simple as that, whenever you are tempted; pray, stick on music after praying, whenever you have thoughts go on your games console, ring up a friend (accountable partner) go for a walk/run/bike ride. Go downstairs where your family are and you know you can’t give in to temptation here. Try and make sure you are busy on your days off and in times when you are normally tempted. So for example in the evenings go to a bible study, go to the pub, go bowling just do ANYTHING ELSE!

Final Note

It may also be worth checking out XXXChurch, they are also on Twitter, definitely worth a follow.

So that’s it. Is it easy ? No, otherwise I wouldn’t have given in today. But remember Jesus loves you, he died on the cross for YOU So that you could be forgiven and to start again today.

When we sin knowingly it’s like we are stepping on Jesus blood and don’t care. Today is the day you break the habit. Leave the phone downstairs, open up your bible, find a verse, write notes and pray to JESUS. Start by acknowledging that you have done wrong and how sorry you are, how you want forgiveness and the chains to come off. Try the prayer below and then remember to pray joyfully and thankfully throughout the day, grab yourself someone as a accountability partner, go out of your comfort zone and admit to someone you struggle, bring the darkness to light. Finally distract yourself and maybe start listening to worship music in the car or on your way to work, to get you in the right mindset.


Jesus, I have done a lot of wrong things in my life. You died on the cross that I could be forgiven and have a new start, when I mess up. Jesus I have messed up, I have watched porn and been tempted to give in to my inner desires. Jesus I am sorry and repent, I wish for your strength and power to remove these feelings from me and break the chains that lock me. This is only possible with you Jesus, I need you now, help me Lord Jesus please! Free me and break these chains in your powerful and amazing name I pray. 

I pray this in your name, Amen

Maybe make it your own, but you get the idea. My Twitter is always open for advice, a chat or anything else. Remember I’m not perfect, only Jesus was. I pray for you all now brothers and sisters. We will beat this together!

Have a blessed day!

Thanks for reading, Godly Gent.

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